Marriage = Glorified Relationship?
Sunday, April 8th, 2007As a youngster, I knew I one day wanted to be married and eventually a father. It was a dream of many, and one I was destined to fulfill. When I entered my 20s, my idea of marriage and relationships began to change. Reality was sinking in and the once perfect image I held of marriage was quickly on the decline.
Today, at 27, I now have a drastically different idea of marriage: It’s just a glorified relationship with legal obligations which rarely favor men. Marriage will not change one’s heart, make them a better companion, or encourage them to be more loyal. It’s just a status, with a few tax benefits.
Supposedly, we live in a spiritually conscious society and country. However, the reality is that our divorce rate has reached damning proportions, while unmarried couples and singles are on the rise. Of course, there is no one particular explanation for this, but one thing is certain: Reality isn’t encouraging.
Furthermore, what incentive is there for single men to marry? If he’s responsible, loving, and committed, what will he gain aside from a “wife”? Marriage is deeply rooted in religion, of which I am not a religious person (I am a “spiritualist”), and as we can see, religion hasn’t done much for our planet — we’re still angry at each other, we’re still fighting senseless “religious wars”, and so on.
What’s so great about marriage again? Thanks, but no thanks. I’ve never needed a piece of paper to proclaim my love or dedication to a mate. Relationships are all about responsibility, accountability and dedication.